Is it ok when a person settles on a way of saying a name that is anglicised or familiar eventhough it's very different from the person's actual name? I know I have people call me Helen or pronounce my name differently from how I pronounce it. I don't take offence. But recently, two white people, both from dominant culture backgrounds, have been totally unable to remember the Asian names of people they have been working with. I am offended on behalf of those people because it's like they don't even care to try. But on the other hand it happens so often to me, I have given up caring... I think.